Forgiveness is crucial. If you hold a grudge and refuse to forgive someone for the way they treated you, the way they hurt you (intentional or not), you’re allowing the pain to fester. When you forgive someone, you’re not saying what happened was ok. You’re not shrugging it off, allowing the person to do it again. You’re simply moving forward with peace in your heart.
Forgiveness is hard. It may seem easier to keep the anger and the pain bottled up, to turn away from it when you don’t want to think about it. It’s easier to keep it buried in the dark recesses of your mind, bringing it out only when you want a reason to act a certain way or to avoid someone or a situation. You find a way to manage it, to use it, until it creeps out on its own and hurts you all over again.
Facing the situation, the memory of someone that caused you great pain, is hard. But when you face it, you can hand it over to God. You can tell Him it hurts you, and you don’t want it burrowing any deeper into your heart, forming bitter roots. Those roots can become embedded, forming chains that keep you trapped in the pain you’re trying to forget.
Ask God to help you to forgive, and He will. He knows more about the situation than you do. He saw the hidden things, the hearts of all involved. Trust Him. He knows. Let Him take it from you. All of it. If you choose to hold onto it, it will keep hurting you. God wants more for you than watching the rerun of the moment over and over in your thoughts. He wants you to move past the pain that holds you back and keeps you down. He offers you freedom from all of that.
Take a deep breath, dear soul, and forgive. Maybe you need to say it directly to someone. Maybe not. But either way, you’ll experience such a peace, such a glorious FREEDOM. And you’ll be eternally blessed by your heavenly Father who loves you enough to forgive you when you ask and help you when you call out to Him. Faithfully. Every time.
Deeper reflection: Read Colossians 3:12-15.